The importance of self-care has really been recognized by the public in recent years, and for good reason! So many times we push our needs or feelings down in order not to upset or offend others. This is something I’ve noticed happening a lot in group or family vacations. I know what you are thinking, vacations are supposed to be relaxing. That is very true, but sometimes doing too much on a trip can actually leave you physically and emotionally exhausted.
I know the feeling of heading to the airport with my bags and saying to myself “finally, I get to relax and just have fun”… Oh if only it were that easy! The double-edged sword of going on a group trip is that you are never alone for the entire trip. You always have someone to enjoy the sightseeing and restaurants and to take your picture for those obligatory cheezy tourist photos (I’m looking at you, people, holding up the Leaning Tower of Pisa). This is the reason why you decided to go on a group trip, to spend time with your loved ones. That being said, you are not obligated to spend every waking moment with them.
I know the feeling of spending the day exploring a town with your family in the morning, then shopping in the afternoon with your mother, then a family dinner, and then accompanying your brother to a cool brewery he heard about. While that is a really great day no matter what, having a week or two of this every. single. day. is just too much.
I know it’s tough to say to your friends or family “hey, I’m going to go to a cafe a read a book” or “I’m going to stay home while you guys check out that giant cheese wheel”, but you just need to bite the bullet. If they don’t respect that you are actually doing something just for you, then that is not your fault, and hopefully one day they will understand that.
It’s important to remember that this is your vacation and while you want to spend time with your loved ones, carving out some time just for yourself is just as important.
What do you think about having some time to yourself on a group trip? Do you have any personal experiences that you can relate to? We’d love to hear about it!